As Lent approaches, the question of fasting may be a source of anxiety, especially for those who have struggled with disordered eating or an eating disorder. It can be very easy for well-meaning friends and treatment providers to simply say “of course you shouldn’t do that, you’re ill” or “why risk your recovery?” It can also be easy for well-meaning clergy or religious leaders to encourage fasting for anyone who does not outwardly “look sick.” I composed this article to address the question of how Lent can be observed without fasting and acknowledge the importance of both a person’s recovery and a person’s faith. For some, just being “excused” from fasting is not enough, it is important to assure people that not fasting does not make one any “less Catholic.”
What is Lent?
The 40 days of Lent are a commemoration of the 40 days that Jesus spent in the desert being tempted by the devil. The New Testament tells us that Jesus fasted during this time in order to keep his focus on God. This is why, during Lent, Christians are often encouraged to make some sort of sacrifice.
Lent begins with Ash Wednesday, where Christians heads are marked with ashes to symbolize death and repentance, often with the words of Genesis 3:19, “for you are dust and to dust you shall return.” This reminds us, in the midst of all of our responsibilities, stressors, and accomplishments, that we are mortal and we depend on God. Lent leads up to Easter, which is the most important holy day for Christians. It marks the feast of Jesus’s resurrection from the dead. Jesus’s healing and inclusive ministry challenged the oppressive Roman Empire and ultimately lead to his crucifixion. Yet, Jesus’s resurrection signifies that suffering, oppression, and death do not have the last word for ANYONE. God will raise us just as God raised Jesus.
Traditionally, what is done during Lent?
Traditionally, for Catholics, Ash Wednesday and Good Friday (the Friday before Easter which commemorates Jesus’s death) are days of fasting (defined as eating only one full meal) and abstinence (abstaining from meat). All Fridays during Lent are days of abstinence. For all other weekdays during Lent, it is recommended for Catholics to participate in daily Mass and self-imposed fasting (though there is no clear definition on what this may be). Thus, many Catholics choose to make some sort of sacrifice during Lent.
Exemption from fasting: where do eating disorders fit in?
Abstinence is obligatory for Catholics over the age of 14, and fasting is obligatory for Catholics 18-59. According to the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, individuals who are mentally or physically ill, suffering from chronic illnesses such as diabetes, and pregnant and nursing women, are all excused from fasting. For someone who, perhaps, is clearly in the midst of their eating disorder with clear health complications, it may be clear that they fit into the category of those struggling with mental and physical illness.
However, things might seem murkier for the person with no abnormal lab reports, the person in a larger body, or the person who is in a strong recovery, or recovered. Catholics are told not to lightly hold themselves excused from penance. Because the guidelines for exemption are pretty general, it is up to recovered Catholics or Catholics in recovery and their treatment providers to use their knowledge of the tradition, their conscience, and their personal mental and physical health history to make decisions. It is also up to Catholics who do not have lived experience with an eating disorder, or any other mental or physical illness, to offer compassion and understanding, even if someone does not “look sick.” Less than 6% of individuals struggling with an eating disorder fit into criteria of being medically underweight (and, of course, using BMI to categorize individuals as underweight or overweight is already extremely problematic).
Although there is supposed to be a clear distinction between fasting for religious purposes and fasting for weight loss, fasting has been co-opted by the diet industry. A quick Google search can confirm this. It is not hard to find affirmations that Lent can be a great time to “lose weight.” Several people in recovery have shared with me that their eating disorder began with what was supposed to be “religious fasting.” Catholic weight loss programs offer a dangerous message that losing weight brings a person closer to God. We live in a society where people are often judged based on their size, and religious communities are not immune.
Numerous studies have shown that fasting, even when taken on temporarily, can lead to body dissatisfaction and disordered eating behaviors. Fasting can also easily be used to mask an eating disorder. It is not always easy to discern motives. Oftentimes, people who have recovered from alcoholism choose to avoid drinking any alcohol because even a small amount can carry the risk of relapse. Some do not even want to be around other people when they are drinking. Similarly fasting or even just talking about fasting can end up triggering old thoughts and behaviors. For this reason, I would say that family members or friends who may provide support to someone in recovery may also consider themselves exempt from fasting.
What if I feel bad about not fasting?
If you do feel a sense of fear, sadness, or guilt over not fasting, do not feel ashamed, especially if it is something you normally did in the past. It can always feel weird at first to observe differently. Furthermore, treatment providers and loved ones, please understand that even if Lent does not contain spiritual meaning for you, observing Lent may be important to your client or loved one’s sense of identity. Do not automatically accuse Catholic clients or loved ones of trying to manipulate you if they bring fasting up, and do not dismiss their needs and concerns. Rather, try to learn about what they believe and why.
For Catholics, it is important to understand that not all Catholic teachings are on the same level of importance. A dogma is the highest level of Church teaching and includes beliefs like the incarnation (that God became human in Jesus), The Trinity, and the resurrection. These are teachings that are unchangeable. Fasting is not a dogma, and in fact, it is not even a doctrine, which is one step below a dogma in importance. Fasting is on the level of church discipline, meaning it is changeable and recommended, not a mandatory obligation. Unlike a total denial of Jesus’s divinity, the decision not to fast would not in a way separate one from the Catholic Church.
In fact, teachings on fasting have changed a lot over the years. All Fridays used to be days of abstinence, now it is just Fridays during Lent. Catholics used to be told to fast from midnight on before receiving the Eucharist at morning mass. Now Catholics are told to avoid eating or drinking for just one hour before receiving the Eucharist and even for this, there are exceptions for the young, the elderly, and those who are ill. In other words, fasting is not an essential part of Catholic identity, and ideas about what fasting should entail have changed with the “signs of the times.” So, yes, we can and should consider the prevalence of eating disorders a “sign of the times.”
If someone shames you for not fasting, they are totally missing the point. Lent is not a competition, and what we do for Lent is not meant to be publicized. Matthew’s Gospel tell us that when we pray, fast, or give to the needy, we should not show others what we are doing in order to hear their praise but rather, it should be between us and God.
Also, Catholic institutions may want to re-consider their Lenten messaging. A friend of mine who is also recovered from an eating disorder remembers being triggered during her college years by messages in the cafeteria reminding students to fast. Maybe reminders about Lenten sacrifice can be less food focused. Are we not more in need of signs reminding students to be kind to one another? Would that not create an even more Catholic campus? (Not to mention that it would also be more inclusive to non-Catholics)
So what might I do instead to observe Lent?
Giving up food is not the only option. Taking something on is another way to observe Lent. This can include volunteering your time with a cause that is meaningful for you, reaching out to those whom you know may be lonely, trying to be more patient with your spouse, parents, or children; or engaging in prayer more regularly. Oftentimes during Lent, Christians are told to sacrifice in order to give to the needy. This does not mean one has to forsake eating a meal before making a donation. Food is not the only thing we buy, and there are other things we could abstain from purchasing that do not hinder recovery. Also, donating can be donating one’s time. The act of giving undivided attention to something or someone when we are normally distracted is extremely precious.
When I was in recovery, I was often told that my only job during Lent was to “eat more” and “get well.” While I recognize these words were well-intentioned, I do not recommend putting that type of pressure on Catholics in recovery. First of all, recovery is not a linear process, and setbacks are common. For people in recovery, a setback or a relapse can sometimes make one lose hope or motivation, so they do not need the extra pressure of “and now I failed Lent too!” Eating disorders are not a sin, and no matter how much a person is struggling, they are never separated from the love of God nor from the ability find God’s presence in their lives. Second, a person’s ability to access treatment and support is impacted by socioeconomic factors. Due to the false but prevalent stereotype that eating disorders only affect “rich emaciated white women,” medical professionals are less likely to listen to or take seriously the experiences of men, people of color, and people in larger bodies.
Also, just because a person struggles with an eating disorder does not mean they cannot take part in Lent as a time of penance. Taking something on can mean making a greater effort to examine our biases, and to take a more active role in addressing the injustices of systemic racism, homophobia, or ableism. Lent can and should still be a challenge and in fact, I would argue that these things are a lot more difficult than giving up candy or skipping a meal, and their impact is much longer lasting.
No one should have to choose between their faith and their recovery, and no one who is recovered should feel obligated to return to fasting. Neither should one feel that an eating disorder diagnosis is required in order for them to abstain from fasting, especially if it will cause physical or emotional distress. Loved ones who are supporting a person in recovery also should not worry about fasting. Believe me, in caring for someone with an eating disorder, you are doing God’s work.
If you are not fasting during Lent, know that you are not alone and that you are not “less Catholic.” You do not owe anyone an explanation. Your observance of Lent is meant to be between you and God anyway. God’s love is so great that I have to believe that there are multiple avenues for drawing close to God, not just during Lent, but at any time. And if God is really angry with me or anyone for not fasting, do we really want to be close to such a god anyway?